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The Best Way to Protect Yourself – DON’T Hire a Lawyer

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T13:13:44+00:00July 13th, 2021|Dealing With Divorce|

One of the first things you think about when you realize you’re getting divorced is how to protect yourself — emotionally and financially. Most people think the best way to do this is to hire a divorce attorney. Unfortunately, this usually accomplishes the exact opposite—it stokes conflict and puts your assets at risk. The Law Dictates More Than You Think The key thing to understand is that the division of assets and debts in a divorce is largely dictated [...]

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Reaching Agreement With Bliss

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T13:18:15+00:00August 20th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce|

Welcome to BlissDivorce! Throughout the various parts of your divorce journey, Bliss will ask you to propose divisions of assets, debts, obligations, and even your taxes. Here’s what to expect, and how to make the most of our modules and our mediators. Your spouse will not see the divisions you propose. The divisions you propose along the way will all go directly to your mediator. Your spouse won’t see them. However, you should be thoughtful about what you propose. These [...]

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Dividing Household Items

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T13:21:57+00:00July 11th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, Divorce Process, Legal Issues|

Your household items are more than just things. They can represent memories, history, and even the marriage itself. Some people can say, "it's just stuff," and move forward. Others may not want physical reminders of their spouse going forward. However, many couples find dividing household items to be one of the most emotionally challenging facets of property division. Here's what you need to know to make that process easier and simpler. Source: shutterstock.com / Photo Contributor: vchal Household Items [...]

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Proposing Divisions Your Spouse Will Accept

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T13:28:53+00:00June 26th, 2020|Dealing With Divorce, Divorce Process|

Whether you are working with attorneys or a mediator, hashing out a divorce agreement means bringing proposals for dividing your assets, debts, and tax obligations for your spouse to consider. In this process, it’s important to think about what your spouse will accept. Here are some tips for coming up with proposals. Saving Time In Mediation Creating a divorce agreement without going to court means finding a compromise that both you and your spouse can agree to. Your [...]

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Community and Separate Property

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T13:34:11+00:00May 27th, 2020|Legal Issues|

Before creating your divorce agreement, you need to know, from a legal standpoint, what belongs to you, what belongs to your spouse, and what belongs to both of you. In states like California, this is where the concept of community and separate property comes in. Source: shutterstock.com / Photo Contributor: Basicdog What You Need To Know About Community Property So what is "community property"? Community property is an asset or debt that both spouses have an equal right to. [...]

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Vengeful Spending

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-17T14:37:27+00:00May 27th, 2020|Legal Issues|

When emotions are riding high, individuals might engage in behavior that they wouldn't have previously imagined possible. One of the people in a divorce may be fixated on making sure their spouse "never sees a dime." So, what happens if one spouse is spending a lot of money before the divorce being final? Although marital fault is becoming less of a factor for many judges, the concept of economic fault remains essential when it comes time to divide [...]

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How Will Infidelity Impact Your Divorce Settlement?

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T13:58:15+00:00May 26th, 2020|Legal Issues|

Discovering that your spouse has been cheating can be a shocking revelation. If you've been cheated on, you might hope that a judge will set this injustice right. If you've been caught cheating, you may be wondering how it will impact your final divorce settlement. Here's what you need to know. How Judges View Adultery Remember, the judges handling divorce cases have heard countless stories about adultery. For better or worse, many judges have become desensitized to most of this—and [...]

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Online Divorce: Can It Really Be That Easy?

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T14:22:03+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

In a divorce, there are a lot of logistics to work through. Every divorce is unique, and with emotions riding high, working with your spouse to end your marriage equitably can be very difficult. A trial is expensive. The less time you and your spouse can spend in front of a judge, the more money you will save. But mediators and lawyers can also cost a pretty penny. That's why more and more people are choosing to use online tools, [...]

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What’s Worth Fighting Over (and what’s not)

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-30T14:25:06+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

Divorce is complicated. There are so, so many decisions to make. Every fight you have with your spouse requires an investment of your energy and money. It's essential to pick and choose your battles. Here is an exercise you can do right now to decide what is and isn't worth fighting over. Here is an activity you can do to help simplify the process of reaching an agreement with your spouse. Get some paper and a pen. Then, set [...]

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The Best Advice For Reaching Agreement on Custody Issues

By Scott Seidewitz|2023-05-17T16:13:39+00:00May 26th, 2020|Divorce Process|

We all care very deeply for our children, and as such, parenting decisions -- and deciding who has the power to make them -- are some of the most challenging issues to reach agreement on. The best advice is to simplify, prioritize, and delegate. Simplify. There would seem to be thousands of things to decide, but remember that these break down into just a few categories: residence, health, finances, education, and religion. These five simple categories cover most of the decisions. [...]

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